Coping with divorce? You need relationship duct tape.
I’m a southern girl so I know the value of duct tape.
Daddy always told me to keep some in the back of my car because you never know when a situation might call for some fixing.
Daddy, as usual, was right. One day, I got in a fender bender on the freeway. Everyone was OK. But my car? Not so much. It was driveable except the rear bumper was hanging half off. I dug my duct tape out of the trunk and fashioned a big duct tape band-aid to secure the bumper to the side of the car. And it held. All the way home driving 65 mph on the freeway, my homemade auto body fix held. I made it home.
As I going through this divorce process, I’ve realized that duct tape doesn’t just hold car bumpers together. It can hold your life together too. There are people in my life who have been my duct tape. They were strong when I was weak. They covered my broken pieces. They literally held me together.
My duct tape included:
Daddy who listened for hours while I wept into the phone.
Annie, my stepmother who would answer her phone at 2am to talk me down from a panic attack.
Pam who gave me a place to live when I couldn’t go home.
Eddie, my handsome angel who cried (and laughed) with me through funerals, heartbreak and late night cocktails.
Myra who prayed for me.
Ash who would call or text words of encouragement.
My daughter who gave me a reason to wake up.
These people were my strength. And like the duct tape on my mangled fender, they kept me together until I could could make it home.
Who is your duct tape?
Your faith? Your family? Your friends?
You don’t have to go through a relationship meltdown to discover which friends and family are your duct tape.
I’ve made a graphic for this post. Please send this to the people in your life who hold you together when you’re weak. Thank them those people who have made you stronger during tough times.
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