Crazy things people say to you when you’re divorcing.

lessons from my divorce. don't be that friend.

Crazy Sh$% people say when you are divorcing. For Reals. (People truly say the strangest things to you when you are divorcing.)   Just a few truly unbelievable comments people have said to me during my divorce. When you are divorcing, lots of people have lots of comments that they just NEED to share. You have these people in your life. […]

What is your greatest fear during divorce?

what is your greatest fear during divorce

What is your greatest fear during divorce? I woke up at 2:30 am in a sweat bath of anxiety. What is the fear that wakes me in the darkness? What am I so afraid of? It is my greatest fear. Fear of disappointing. See, I was bred to be a pretty Southern girl. My job was not to be smart, […]

The best Mother’s Day gift? Forgiveness

the best mother's day gift forgiveness

The best Mother’s Day gift? Forgiveness. I woke up today on Mother’s Day I couldn’t help but think about my role as Mother. My daughter is the center of my universe. Her smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds. How will this separation and divorce change her? Will her self-esteem be shot? What about her future relationships? Will […]

The unspoken secrets of an unhappy marriage.

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Is everyone everywhere secretly in an unhappy marriage? I’m scared. Really scared. I wonder. Is there such a thing as a happy marriage? I’m beginning to have my doubts. I’m learning the truth about the unspoken secrets of an unhappy marriage. Since I’ve become legally separated, I’m the official representative of the “almost unmarrieds” and as such people divulge lots […]

5 Best Places to Have a Mid-Divorce Nervous Breakdown

5 best places to have a mid divorce nervous breakdown

Is your divorce driving you crazy? Separated and feel like you are losing it? I’ve been mid-separation for so long, I think I’m almost ready for a nervous breakdown. And honestly, who wants to lose their mind someplace like Sacramento or Bakersfield or their guest bedroom? If I’m going to be curled up in the fetal position and drooling, it […]

A Poem About Divorce: The Power of Me.

a poem about divorce. the power of me.

A Poem About Divorce: The Power of Me. A Power About Divorce. THE POWER OF ME Don’t let the cotton candy hair and pleasing apple smile fool you. I am made of steel and spikes, Bone and ore There lies beneath this soft white skin-a core of asphalt. A mighty center. Miles of road. hairpin turns. Freeway walls of profane […]

How to know in your heart when it’s really time to divorce.

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How to know in your heart when it’s really time to divorce. How to learn to listen to that little voice. It knows the truth. There is a little voice in your head. Can you hear it? It’s been there all along but you’ve silenced it, ignored it for so many years, that now it’s little more than a hoarse whisper. […]

Divorce Wisdom. You are going to be OK.

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Divorce Wisdom that I’ve learned the hard way. You are going to be OK in the end. Maybe you asked for the divorce, maybe you didn’t. Maybe you were the one to utter the “D” word. DIVORCE. Or maybe he said it first and it landed like a well placed punch in the gut, sucking the air out of your […]