People lose their minds in a divorce battle. Divorce becomes a sharp stick to poke their former partner. Every slight, every forgotten anniversary gift becomes fuel to burn down the other person. The goal isn’t what it should be: ending the marriage quickly and equitably. The goal becomes making sure the other person hurts more than they do. One party withholds support. The other retaliates and delays court dates. Bank statements. Tax returns. Accountants. Child psychologists.
Who is the winner in this brawl? The attorneys. Cha ching! I hope that Mr. and Mrs. Rosendale both get a nice box of See’s Candy from their legal team for all the hourly fees they’ve racked up. And maybe even a birthday card too. (If your dentist can send you a birthday card, can’t your damned divorce attorney?)
So if you don’t want to end up like the poor Rosendales in Orange County, I would suggest that you put the flame thrower down, pick up the phone and tell your attorney to get that sh*t done. Here’s a crazy idea; COMPROMISE. That’s probably something that we couldn’t do while we were married and why we are in divorce court now. Each party gives a little and neither gets everything that they want. But it will be over. Done. Complete. You can move on with your life.
Whatever happened in your marriage happened. It’s over. Now get the divorce over with too.