Separating, divorcing and panic attacks. My true tale of learning to deal. Panic: The Early Years. Other kids had imaginary friends growing up, I had panic attacks. I think I had my first panic attack when I was four. I remember a big one when I was seven, visiting Opryland. I began hyperventilating during a stage show medley of country […]
The reasons why I blog about divorce.
In case you were wondering, here are the reasons why I blog about divorce. I’ve been writing this blog about divorce for over six months now. I thought it would be a good time to backup and explain why I’m writing this divorce blog anyway. Why do I share these tales of divorce? It all started in my tiny guest […]
Is a happy marriage just an old-fashioned idea?
Is marriage an old-fashioned custom way past its prime? I saw this car in a parking lot yesterday. Toilet paper draped, shaving cream letters, a big heart with the new couple’s initials. Hope and joy of happily ever after. A marriage that lasts forever. Till death do us part. But it made me wonder, is happily ever after really possible? […]
Divorcing? Be brave enough to be an idiot.
Divorcing? Be brave enough to be an idiot. My twenty year old self is cringing right now. I am wearing a really stupid purple and pink hat. People are probably staring. They might be wondering what the hell I’m doing. I’ll tell you what I’m doing. I’m being brave enough to look like an idiot. Remember when you were in […]
What is your greatest fear during divorce?
What is your greatest fear during divorce? I woke up at 2:30 am in a sweat bath of anxiety. What is the fear that wakes me in the darkness? What am I so afraid of? It is my greatest fear. Fear of disappointing. See, I was bred to be a pretty Southern girl. My job was not to be smart, […]
5 Best Places to Have a Mid-Divorce Nervous Breakdown
Is your divorce driving you crazy? Separated and feel like you are losing it? I’ve been mid-separation for so long, I think I’m almost ready for a nervous breakdown. And honestly, who wants to lose their mind someplace like Sacramento or Bakersfield or their guest bedroom? If I’m going to be curled up in the fetal position and drooling, it […]
Divorce Wisdom. You are going to be OK.
Divorce Wisdom that I’ve learned the hard way. You are going to be OK in the end. Maybe you asked for the divorce, maybe you didn’t. Maybe you were the one to utter the “D” word. DIVORCE. Or maybe he said it first and it landed like a well placed punch in the gut, sucking the air out of your […]
My best divorce trick? A champagne and gummy bear strategy.
Want some odd tricks to get through divorce? Here’s one. I call it my champagne and gummy bear strategy. To quote Bill Clinton: I feel your pain. I know it in the hollow of my heart. You feel like sh*t. Actually, feeling anything would be welcome. You are numb. Carved out. Your well of emotions is bone dry. You have […]